Women don't know what they want and have no idea who they are.

We are all living from a shaky foundation of fear telling us that we're not enough, we're doing something wrong, and we should always be feeling vaguely guilty. This way of being leaves you feeling like a watered-down version of yourself, afraid to take up space in the world. Day after day you pretend to be someone you think will pass as "acceptable" as you hide your truth out of fear of being judged, rejected, or abandoned.

In this teaching memoir, you will learn that the pain you are avoiding is holding you hostage in your life. That the path back to your own heart is lit by everything that feels scary. In her empowering and often humourous way, Carley guides you to own your past and take radical responsibility of yourself so you can finally figure out what "self-love" means. She welcomes you to the dark and light parts of being human, giving you permission to revel in all that comes with the privilege of being YOU. The scared and small parts of you will take a backseat as you learn how to navigate life through the lens of love and self-acceptance.